The Way to Create
& an introduction to Gather together
A check -in:
Hello Hello Creatives —
Did any of you participate in the Holy Nights reflection this year? If yes, I want to hear more about your experience — comments are such a great way to [not-so-subtle-hint). If not, stick with me for what I learned, then we will hop into the right use of will, creating and how we are moving into a year of unexpected joy no matter what.
It was profound for me this year, even when I was met with silence.
This year, I found it even easier to keep a rhythm, amidst the quickened pacing of the holidays, and parenting a child with more sugar and less structure. This is a nod to why commitment and practices are so helpful.
I started to see the patterns & this is what I want to talk to you about.
Grab your coffee and come closer.
"THE DAY YOU PLANT THE SEED IS NOT THE DAY YOU
eat the fruit. BE PATIENT AND
STAY THE COURSE."
- Fabienne Fredrickson
If you are a writer or a journaler, you have gone through old journals and seen — Wow, I am still working on this. Or Hey, I have been talking about [complaining] about this for a really, really long time. Then, all of the sudden just like the spiral in a snail’s shell, you come around a bend and the spiral opens up, and you have created a realization, a new job, a new way — something has changed and formed. Primarily you.
When I flipped back and forth between my calendar of 2024 (you have to reflect on the current physical year) and on my previous Holy Night journals, I could see what parts of the year I was busier in my business and in my personal growth. I could see, well, I am going to tell you reader what I saw about 2024: I saw that my son had a lot of really fun activities planned. He went on several vacations; he started playing baseball which is the love of his life (he even got his first MLB game ball); his mother (me) took him to pet an alligator at a animal sanctuary and then had the “best burger of his life” Afterwards, in the car home, he realized, he “held a real alligator just-like-Steve-Irwin” in awe that dreams can come true, he shook his head, and said, “This stuff can really happen.”
The belief and sparkle in his eyes is core memory for both of us and the highlight of my year, to be honest.
But when I looked at the calendar for me, for the mother that organized these events — I could barely find a thing. Now, I did wonderful things last year, I went on the same vacations (with my child), but I couldn't find anything that held the same level of personal wow.
This is not a complaint, and this is the subtle difference of what I want to talk about. My intention for the year was to have a lot more fun (I wrote it out), and the name at the top of my list, in every journal and reflection, is my son’s, and I agree with that. I am proud of that — but it wasn’t until I was staring at the calendar and the hard facts of days that I could have included myself. It didn’t have to be an either or.
Often in life, we can get so focused on one thing, we forget to hold the opposites, and we can be so intent on the only way to do something we — all of us — can close down possibilities.
Because it was a great year, professionally and in many other ways, had I not looked back I would not have seen how I was missing from my own schedule. I would have said: I’m a mom. It’s fine.
But because I looked with contemplative, non-judgmental eyes upon myself I saw: I’m a mom. This is not fine. And I have already started to pivot.
Things change when we look at them. Quantum physics talks about the “observer effect.” It loosely says that a particle can be in possibility, but when observed it changes course. The consciousness of being observed places a destination of determination on the particle.
In 1920, Niels Bohr (1885 — 1962) and others developed the Copenhagen Interpretation, stating that a quantum particle doesn't exist in one state or another (as a wave or as a particle), but in all of its possible states at once. When we observe its state, the particle is forced to choose one probability, and that's the state we observe. The particle may be forced into a different observable state each time, which explains why a particle behaves erratically and can give differing results.
The "observer effect" states that the process of observing a particle changes the way the particle behaves.
When you put these together and add spirituality into the mix by taking into account the role of consciousness on the matter (energy) around us, you get an interesting set of theories. - aaas.org
First, though, I let myself feel that little twinge of sadness that was below the righteousness of my parenting (so I had a high value, but it was blocking out a bit of self-value).
Immediately afterward, I felt relief. I understood a little bit of my exhaustion (where I was out of alignment with my values) and I knew I could easily fix this. I mean, I wasn’t going to have my schedule of 10 years ago, and I didn’t want it. But I now had illuminated a felt sense for myself how making a pivot, and aligning my values was going to put me back onto a space of living the life the way I expected it to work.
In quantum terms, you could say I observed my own particles and put them back in proper order
I’ve been a lot of places that taught reverence in my life. Here is me at the top of a mountain in Maui with a sanctified stupa beyond the bend that monks traveling from Dharmasala, and beyond have stayed at. There was no sign. There was no electricity. There was an invitation to a place I would have never have known existed. So how did I get there? What was inside of me that made this so?
In this year’s reflection, all these places and spirals kept appearing from years and years ago, beckoning. Primarily when I was in my 30’s, my deep seeking years when I traveled the world for the sacred, and now I travel to baseball fields and local parks — just as holy honestly because I have the eyes to see.
Out of alignment though, there can be frustration and a yearning for a season that has passed, which can leave one frustrated. If we can keep turning, even if at a snail’s pace, something opens.
Here we are today in world that is rapidly changing, and it seems to be trying to convince us that we must go with it. But, it seems we are here to create it.
A few months ago, a decades old friend and I started talking about life and change. She, losing her best friend and child’s father, then months later living through the Asheville disaster, we started speaking on the life and our options to keep living and loving no matter what. “I wish I could tell people, what does it matter, you are here, live,” she would say something of such as we talked on the phone, yet still carefully stepping around some of the newer grief.
Feelings are revelations; they happen at their own pace and space for integration. We found that even though our year was very different, we were having the same realizations about the nature of living, of God, and the importance of harnessing these things to live a life one enjoys and deserves, instead of living in response and fear. It is time to live in faith.
We taught several classes together about 8 years ago, right before I became a mother, her child had already arrived. We combined our passions and talents to create spaces for people to create. We’re doing it again, a bit differently.
We are pulling on years of personal development, friendship, parenting and skills.
Instead of more, we are focusing on less.
Instead of manifesting, we are focusing on aligning.
Instead of pulling, we are focusing on emanating and magnetizing.
Instead of all the buzz words — we are focusing on peace.
Finding peace is an unshakeable freedom. No matter what comes your way, no matter how or why your life changes. We will build a process to know peace from wherever you are – your inner compass shows you the way.
It’s a 3 month transformation journey for those that understand how far you moved last year, and this year is the one for traction, within and so without.
We start February 2nd.
If you have questions reach out.
If you want to read more and join us to GATHER your pieces to know peace, click below.
The beginning of January 2025 has been a bit rumbly with its indications of change. It is everywhere. For everyone.
I suppose I am in space where you can look at it one of two ways: something to brace yourself for, or you can anchor your roots and look to the source within that always finds a way no matter what.
We'll still be here together — creating. I would love for you to join us in GATHER though if I am honest. I know it will be less coaching and more alchemy. I know it will be a space of honesty and beauty because when you join with intention what you seek, which is already seeking you, has a funny way of becoming very clear.
If you have questions — send them! Let’s be advocates for ourselves this year. Let’s write ourselves confidently into the life we intend.
With love,
Kate