Do me a favor — if you can hit play and listen to a opening of this song before you keep reading — and if you can, think of it as a song from the inner you to you. Corny, but no one will know — give it a try.
Hits different. “I don’t wanna lose YOU now!” You can do this with a lot of songs, turn the quest for the love towards yourself and see what kind of response you get. My friend, at the time roommate, overheard me showering my dog with affection one morning years ago: You are so beautiful. Is it your breakfast time? Look at that happy tail? You are perfect!
“Kate,” she said. “Could you imagine if we talked to ourselves or each other that way every morning? Our tails would be wagging too!”
We both laughed, but saw the truth it.
Okay, let me tell you a story about mirrors.
I ran into a friend a few weekends ago at a wellness space grand opening. It had been almost five years since we had seen each other, with moves, and life and all those details that shuffle themselves.
We started chatting right away gleefully. She is one of those glorious beings that you can simply drop in with and don’t have to tap dance around small talk. When she asked me what the past few years were like, I recounted for her the story of Amaterasu and my trip to Japan earlier in the year. Ending with, “So all the gods and elementals, stood outside of Amatersu’s cave with mirrors to trick her into seeing her own light again.”
She nodded in recognition of all that is implied in metaphor and unspoken reality, “I could use some mirrors,” she said.
I texted her for a coffee date to mirror.
We both came away from that chat inspired and a little more spacious.
We needed mirrors. Not the shitty fluorescent ones at Target, but the ones at a small-business owned boutique, or the one you pass when you are on beach vacation, sun-kissed and remembering how good life is supposed to feel. In short — pick a good mirror with some good lighting.
Then, I hopped off a phone call with my colleague, Claudine Wolk, where we were working out details for an upcoming live event at The Doylestown Library for new and published authors, and at the end of the call I said: “Listen we just need to talk it out and then we’ll land on the next step, we always do.” I heard myself. We offer each other mirrors.
We cannot see ourselves. It is the most perplexing thing about being human. Yet the internal world we create is reflected in the world we see. It is truly bonkers and I am currently aiming to teach this reality to my almost 6-year old and it really has me reflecting on how true it is.
Plus, I am realizing that what we make space for is what occupies our lives, and as Justin Timberlake pleas, “I don’t wanna lose you now.” So when I protect and prioritize what is important I decrease the chance of losing me. Whether that is in people-pleasing or just messy calendar keeping (oops, no time for silence, exercise, or binging my show) It’s why this year’s Sit in Our Center is for Mothers because that is a space I need to prioritize and revolutionize, both its sanctity and practicality, which I only know how to do by uplifting other mothers. As Patsy Scala echos, “We know that as we have been nourished, so must we nourish. As we are gifted, so must we offer our own gifts.”
At a recent potluck, a mama turned to me and said, “I love these things, I always get new ideas what to cook at home.” Mirrors. Mirrors. Mirrors. Sit (which starts very, very soon, October 26th is all about pooling our resources and recipes to lighten the load, accompanied by the Sit in Your Center course journey to reclaim and reignite the energetics of She, the mama, the woman, the stay-at-home, work-from-home, work-from-wherever, all of it. She needs a mirror. She needs that good, good lighting to remember who she truly is.
So wherever this finds you today, when you walk past a mirror smile at Her, she’s been there alllll along 🎶
Thanks for being here,
Kate
P.S.
Every Thursday, I join a group of women-entrepreneurs who are claiming more Relaxed Money and Flow in their life (I’ll be attending this online event October 16 - 18th…okay, probably after it airs, at the end of the day, to be honest, to potentize my own abundant perspectives. Click here if you want “meet” there too.) Maybe we can light this world up together.