First, if you are wondering: Is this your first blog?
Nope.
My first blog was and still is here.
And then I had been writing here.
Then I started writing here .
It would be peculiar at this point for a writer not to have some sort of blog, am I right? But it is confusing for said writers to have there writing all over the place though—am I right?
I looked down at my to-do list and I saw that I was everywhere. I was traversing universes and it was time to pause and draw back to center, as I like to say. I had to stop out-pouring all my energy, on all the things—things I could, but there was no return. Nothing was coming back.
Why? Because I wasn't asking. I was just outpouring. So here are my hacks for you friend. The blog is just a metaphor for the scattering that is all too common in our everyday expectation of being everything to everyone all the time.
Time Saving Hacks
Look at your to-do list. Really look at it and if you are chock full and your needs are not getting met pick 3 things to put on hold for 3 months. What? You say. You can’t? Well every little list is taking up space in your brain and your body and you need to clean house is you are reading this blogpost, so start with the most obvious and go from there.
Tell the people affiliated with the three things that you are not doing them. Do not create a long story. Throw your guilt into your trashcan or composter and don’t do it. Let it go. Don’t do the thing.
Here’s a sample: “Hello, Joel. I have paused all production on my podcast for three months to make space for my xxx. I will be in touch in 3 months to reschedule.”
Don’t immediately fill the space. A funny thing happened when I sent basically the same message I slyly used a template for you. It happened after my nervousness settled down. It happened after I reminded myself of my top 3 selected priorities (yes, do that too. It will help you hold your ground when things start to pull you off center) and let everything else go, and then I didn’t care. I didn’t care that I let things go. And I meditated more and started to remember what space felt like in my body and that is the biggest hack of them all: space and breath = calm
Calmness is your superpower. it is. Calmness gets you into your parasympathetic brain which is where solutions arise. It is where possibilities and creativity are waiting for their shot. It is the opposite terrain of burn through and push on.
I call this hack being human. Be deeply authentically human. Release your limits so you can remember that you are limitless.
Question:
What does this have to do with Valentine’s Day?
Answer:
Love yourself first.
Understanding our limits does make us limitless, or present, which ends up being the same thing. Run around and do all the things, but don’t do so many things that there is nothing of you left. If the person who is reading this is not getting the nourishment and the time to feel the silent pulse of how loved they are — well then what can you give out? Let that love saturate and garner all the goodness then it can overflow. Don’t give out that store-bought last-thought love, give that home cooked goodness feeding your Self and your loved ones at the same time kind of love. Here’s a groove for you from Miss Lauryn Hill.
Mwah! Enjoy your Monday!
Kate
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